10 AFFIRMATIONS THAT HELP ME THROUGH BAD DAYS

What you say to yourself matters. It’s not always easy to be kind to ourselves, but using words of affirmation rather than judgment can be lifechanging. If you’re like me (and spent most of your life using words of judgment and rejection towards yourself), shifting your mindset is going to take some practice. But with patience, practice, and persistence, it is SO possible.

It’s 2019. It’s about time we stop being so hard on ourselves. Instead, let’s try something new. Let’s believe in ourselves. It starts with affirmations!

These are my top ten favorite affirmations when I am feeling down on myself:

  1. I am passionate and outrageously enthusiastic.

This one is my favorite for when I’m feeling down on my body image. What else do I offer to the world? What other characteristics, aside from physical, do I love about myself?

  1. I am healthy and strong.

I have spent most of my life unhealthy. Overweight, underweight, constantly struggling with looking at food and exercise in a positive life. I love this little reminder – that although I may still struggle, I am SO much healthier and stronger from where I came from.

  1. I am patient and trusting with my body.

It’s easy to look at our physical appearance or current situation and get frustrated. Why is this happening to me? Why am I so bloated today? WHY can’t my body just cooperate?! Trust the timing in your life and continue to listen to your body. This is only temporary.

  1. I believe in myself and my capabilities.

This affirmation is a friendly reminder for me to look at how far I’ve come and how much I’ve triumphed. I’ve overcome so much, which makes me capable of so much more.

5. I am powerful and create the life I want (and deserve).

Everything you do today matters. Whether you’re working or resting, giving yourself the self-care you need or putting in the hours that you know you’re capable of helps you create the life you want. YOU are creating the life that you want. That may sound scary, but it’s also extremely empowering. You got this.

  1. I am optimistic and believe things will always work out for the best.

I truly believe everything happens for a reason. So, when it feels like the world is crashing down around me, this is a gentle reminder to myself – there is ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel. There is always a positive in the sea of negative. Although I can’t see it now, I know this is happening to me for a greater purpose.

  1. I treat my body how I treat others – with kindness and respect.

On days where I’m feeling down on myself, it’s easy to resort back to old habits – disordered eating patterns, neglecting self-care, repeating harsh words to myself, etc. This affirmation is a huge reminder that I need to treat my body with love and respect. Abusing my body for years lead me down a dark path. I deserve to continue on the path of light and happiness.

  1. I am focused and determined. I never give up.

Imagine a time in your life where you SO desperately wanted to give up, but pushed through anyway. How did you feel afterwards? What results came out of it?

Never, ever give up on yourself. You have too much to offer the world.

  1. I am unique and love being myself.

We are all unique and have something different to offer. Being yourself is the best gift you can give to others. Recognize the characteristics that make you unique and allow yourself to thrive off them.

  1. I AM ENOUGH!

And I always will be.

Five Self-Help Books That Changed My Life

I’m a sucker for a good book. I honestly didn’t dive into the “Self-Help” book until after reading my very first self-help book, “You are a Badass.” I felt so motivated, inspired, uplifted, and dare I say…badass…it made me wonder what other books were out there. I wanted to feel this inspired 24/7.

This past year I’ve read a lot of books, most of them being self-help books. Here are my top five and what I’ve learned from them:

 

You are a Bad Ass by Jen Sincero

This book opened my eyes to a brand-new world. As much as I wanted to believe (at first) that it was a bunch of mumbo-jumbo motivational crap, the more I read it, the more intrigued I became. Sincero makes you feel (and believe) that anything is impossible if you go at it as an unstoppable force. What I learned from this book:

  • Universal Intelligence is real and happening. I needed to open my mind.
  • I needed to step out of my victim mindset and step into my accountability mindset.
  • My mindset matters. The more I practice working on my mindset, the better it will get.
  • Affirmations are so important. The more I put into the Universe, the more I will get out of it.
  • Loving myself will help me succeed, and it will make the road to success so much brighter.

 

You are a Bad Ass at Making Money by Jen Sincero

While this book has the same author of “You are a Badass,” this book goes into detail about our relationship with money, how to heal that relationship, and why healing that relationship can make you rich. It provides completely different information from “You are a Badass,” but it is just as valuable, motivating, inspiring, and uplifting as the previous one. As a business owner, I felt constantly stuck with my business growth and growing my finances. I watched businesses start small and grow to six figures, and I wanted that more than anything. But a huge part of being stuck with my finances had to do with being stuck in my mindset. What I learned from this book:

  • Wanting, loving, and being excited over money is not greedy. I deserve to thrive, not just scrape by and survive.
  • My MONEY mindset matters. The more I practice affirmations, patience, persistence, and confidence, the more the Universe will align me with opportunities for income.
  • I needed to STOP living in a scarcity mindset and start living in an ABUNDANCE mindset. Instead of constantly worrying if there is enough, I’m constantly affirming I am ABUNDANT with opportunities, money, support, and love.

 

Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch

I’ve spent most of my life having an unhealthy relationship with food. From third grade to senior year of high school, I was borderline obese, using food as a coping mechanism for my depression and anxiety. I started calorie counting at the age of seventeen, lost 60 pounds, then began cycles of obsessive dieting, eventually spiraling into anorexia. I tried every single possible diet, waist trainer, pill, skinny tea…you name it, I’ve tried it. I eventually became so fed up and depleted, I knew I needed to try something new. Along with therapy, I started reading this book and it was a total game changer. What I learned from this book:

  • Reaching a specific weight or body image is not going to make me happy. I needed to stop depending so much of my happiness based off the way I looked.
  • Everyone is built differently, so having a body goal is silly. If you eat intuitively, listen to your body, and trust your body, you will reach the weight your body naturally wants to be at. Be patient and be persistent.
  • Peace with food is worth so much more than having the “ideal body.” Finally feeling like I have a good relationship with food, one where I don’t obsess over it, is invaluable.
  • I needed to challenge any toxic, negative thoughts that associated with food. Food is no longer the enemy and never was. Food is fuel and I deserve to enjoy it.
  • I, in all honesty, learned how to eat from this book. Instead of stuffing myself or starving myself, I learned how to honor my hunger (and hunger cues.)

 

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

This was one of my very first self-help books, and it 100% got me deeper into self-help books, especially ones about meditation and connecting with Universal Intelligence. The Power of Now discusses the importance of living in the present instead of focusing too much on the past or the future. Although important to explore the past or future for reference, true happiness comes from living in the present moment. What I learned from this book:

  • Affirmations and meditation are vital and necessary for not only connecting to the Universe, but also for feeling the power of the present.
  • My perception is my reality. What I choose to focus on is what will become the focus in my life. I can choose to focus on the past, my traumas, the negative things happening to me…or I can focus on what I can do in this present moment to heal myself and feel genuine happiness.
  • “Whenever anything negative happens to you, there is a deep lesson concealed within, although you may not see it at the time. Even a brief illness or an accident can show you what is real and unreal in your life, what ultimately matters and what doesn’t. Seen from a higher perspective, conditions are always positive.” Often negative things are happening FOR us, not TO us.

 

Girl, Wash Your Face

If I’m being honest, this wasn’t my absolute favorite self-help book. The writing style didn’t match my personality at all, so it took me a little while to really get into the book. But I didn’t let that stop me from reading the valuable information inside. Once I got into the book, I finished it FAST. Hollis discusses the importance of accountability, getting your mind right, and getting out of the victim mentality and on the road to empowerment. What I learned from this book:

  • I needed to stop making excuses for not showing up for my friends, clients, and myself. If I really want to live the life I’ve dreamed of living, I need to hold myself accountable. I need to stop giving up on myself and the people in my life and start showing up for them…because that is what they deserve. That is what I deserve.
  • My level of productivity does not determine how much I am worth. Resting and keeping my stress levels low are just as important as working.
  • It’s okay to say no to opportunities, offers, ideas, etc. that don’t feel right to you. Even if you feel crazy at the time for saying no, it’s okay to listen to your intuition and trust your gut. Saying “no” at the right time can be damn empowering.

What all of these books have in common: LOVE. YOURSELF. FIRST.

Finding Faith in the Universe

“If you choose not to believe in something bigger than yourself, you will never be successful.”

When my coach told me this, I felt absolutely shaken to my core. It’s difficult to explain why I felt that way. I spent most of my life believing in something I later realized didn’t resonate with me. Afterwards, I felt confused and lost…so I chose to believe in nothing.

The mentality of “everything happens for a reason” and the idea of something, or someone, controlling my fate made my eyes roll. I scoffed at everything faith-related, only choosing to view it in a cynical lighting. I felt adamant about my lack of faith…but somehow, I still felt lost.

The more self-help books I started to read, the more I began to read about Universal Intelligence. It seemed every single book I read discussed something about faith, believing, affirmations/prayer, the Universe, meditation, etc. As much as I wanted to believe that was a coincidence, I slowly decided over time that, well, to put it frank, I needed to open my damn mind.

Now, don’t get me wrong. If you’re reading this and currently in a similar mindset, it’s okay! It is much easier said than done and takes time. But I came to a point where I got so tired of feeling lost, confused, negative, frustrated, broke, unfulfilled…I knew I needed to try SOMETHING.

Personally, the most eye-opening chapter I’ve read about Universal Intelligence was “The G Word” in Jen Sincero’s “You are a Badass.” Sincero discusses thinking of the big man in the sky more as energy, frequency, vibration, etc. She refers to the Universe as “Source Energy” and encourages readers to call it by what they feel comfortable with (God, the Universe, the Motherlode, and so on). Here’s a gamechanger quote from Sincero:

  • “The Universe is made up of Source Energy.
  • All energy vibrates at a certain frequency, which means you’re vibrating at a certain frequency, and everything you desire, and don’t desire, is also vibrating at a certain frequency.
  • Vibration attracts vibration

Focus on that which makes you feel good and ye shall find (attract) that which makes you feel good.”

So I started on my journey to finding faith. I had no idea where I was going or what I was doing at first, but I knew I needed to just try. I reread “the G word” chapter multiple times, I continued to research, and I started my practice of believing. At times I felt crazy, other times I felt like I was bullshitting myself…but I continued to repeat to myself “fake it till you make it, girl.”

I practiced raising my frequency by meditating, reciting affirmations, expressing gratitude, giving more, and believing in not only myself but also the Universe. And the more I practiced, the more I really started to shift my mindset and truly BELIEVE.

The more I believed, the better I started to feel. I wasn’t perfect with my practice, but I put in effort every single day in raising my vibrations/vibes/frequency. Let me tell you guys…it has opened a whole new world. I went from feeling like a victim to my circumstances, constantly asking “Why is this happening to me?” to affirming (and truly believing over time) “The Universe has my back and is working for me. This is happening FOR me, even if I can’t see it right now.”

I’ve been on this faith journey for almost a year now. Some days it feels easy, natural, exciting. Other days I need to remind myself that I’m being tested. But the most important part of this journey is to stay patient and never give up. Because life has become so much more positive, liberating, and purposeful now that I feel connected to the Universe.

Thank you, Universe. I see you.

Overcoming Negative Body Image Days

I have days when I feel great about myself. I throw on my favorite outfit, take a few cute pictures, and thrive off my current state of confidence. Then there’s days when I feel the complete opposite. I try on twenty different outfits, spend hours criticizing my body, and convince myself to cancel my plans for the day.

I used to let these days consume me. I often pressed the pause button on my life because I convinced myself that my body image defined me. While I still have negative body image days, I’ve learned how to embrace them rather than hide from them. It sounds much easier said than done, but I promise…practice makes perfect. Here are my best tips for coping with negative body image days:

 

TAKE A WALK

Take a break from trying on different outfits and go outside. Breathe in the fresh air, listen to your music, take a friend/partner with you, and get those endorphins going. Often taking a walk completely clears my mind and helps me start fresh, regardless of the project I’m working on. It also makes me feel like I’ve accomplished something, even if it was small.

If walking isn’t your thing, get your endorphins going in another way! Run, lift weights, stretch, bike, swim, dance, etc. Just remember – you’re not doing this as a punishment to your body for the way it looks. You’re doing this to clear your mind, lift your spirits, and feel like the badass you already are.

 

SHOWER

You may not need one – take one anyway. Imagine cleansing yourself of all that negativity circulating in your mind. Take deep breaths, allowing the steam to open up your sinus passages. Take deeper breaths. Don’t underestimate how much self-care you need right now. Use your favorite smelling soap, crack open that new bath bomb, soak yourself in Epsom salt. Treat your body with care and your mind will follow.

 

WATCH SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU LAUGH

My husband is an expert at finding the most ridiculous, hilarious content from Reddit. I’ve requested content from him so many times that we created a YouTube playlist for negative body image days. Yes – a playlist of bizarre, brainless entertainment that makes me laugh for absolutely no reason at all. After a good laugh, my mood is lifted, and my mind feels a million times lighter. If you’re struggling to find something funny, reach out to a friend who has the same sense of humor as you.

GO FACE YOUR FEAR

I’ve convinced myself countless times to cancel plans and stay in because of how strongly I feel about my body image – “there’s no way I can go out like this. I’m a mess and feel like garbage physically and mentally. I’ll just cancel, put on a sweatshirt, and cry myself to sleep.” But what if I didn’t cancel? What if I went out anyway, despite the fact that I’m scared, self-conscious, and feeling unworthy? What if I’m missing out on the most amazing night of my life because I’ve convinced myself I’m not enough?

So my best advice for you, the advice that I avoided for so long… go out anyway. Face that fear. Because every single time I’ve pushed through that pain and faced that fear, it’s ended in nothing but positivity and a great time. Go out with friends who know your struggles and are there to support you. Don’t miss out on any more of life’s precious moments.

 

PRACTICE AFFIRMATIONS

Affirmations have been a game changer for me. Affirmations are simply giving yourself the emotional support and encouragement that you deserve. It’s so important that you practice affirmations on your bad days, too. My favorites for negative body image days are:

  • I am passionate and outrageously enthusiastic.
  • I am healthy and strong.
  • I am patient and trusting with my body.
  • I believe in myself and capabilities.
  • I am powerful and create the life I want (and deserve).
  • I am optimistic and believe things will always work out for the best.
  • I treat my body how I treat others – with kindness and respect.
  • I am focused and determined. I never give up.
  • I am unique and love being myself.
  • I. AM. ENOUGH

CRY IT OUT

Have you ever had one of those days where you constantly feel on edge? It’s been hours and you still feel like you’re on edge of a breakdown? Let it out. Break down. Cry. Sometimes it’s healthy (and necessary) to release ourselves from that tight reign we hold on our emotions. It’s okay to feel frustrated, lost, scared, depressed, hopeless, etc. But don’t allow yourself to be swallowed by those emotions and sulk in them. Feel those emotions, cry it out, give yourself a big hug, and let it go. You’re a masterpiece and the world needs to see more of you.

How to Stay Hydrated

If I’m being honest, I don’t often have trouble staying hydrated. I love water (and also get bad headaches when I’m dehydrated). But my clients frequently ask for tips on how to stay hydrated during the day, especially during busy days. If you struggle with this, you’re not alone – and just a couple small adjustments to your day could make a dramatic difference in your water intake!

 

START YOUR MORNING STRONG

When I was learning how to recover from disordered eating, my therapist gifted me with advice that I still put into practice every single day. She said “Start your morning strong. Every damn day. It sets the tone for the entire day.” The first thing she recommended is to drink a full glass of water first thing in the morning. While we sleep, our body goes through a “fasting” period and needs nourishment when we wake up. One of the best ways to re-energize and start the day off right is to chug a full glass of water in the beginning of the day. That’s one glass down!

 

BUY A HUGE WATER BOTTLE

No, this doesn’t mean you have to carry around a gallon jug (although if that motivates you, by all means!) But having a water bottle that is bigger allows us to break down the water intake a little at a time. Mark on your water bottle how much water you would like to drink and by what time each day. For example, if you want to finish half of your water bottle by 10am, draw a line halfway down your water bottle and mark it “10am.” Breaking down the water intake into small goals makes the goals feel more attainable – and if you buy a water bottle that is half a gallon, you only need to drink two of those to reach your daily intake!

water

MAKE IT A HABIT

Just like anything in fitness, results take time, patience, and consistency. Building this habit won’t happen overnight and won’t necessarily be a perfect process. But the more your body gets used to hydration, the more it will crave it. To help build this habit more, I scheduled drinking water into my daily routine, making it a “non-negotiable meeting” with myself. I always made sure to show up for myself, and that pushed me to do a little better every day.

HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE

It’s 2019, folks. There is an app for about EVERYTHING! (It’s actually come to the point where I’m shocked when there isn’t an app that suits my needs. Millennial mindset?) Anyway, there are now several free apps downloadable for smart phones to help keep you accountable for your water intake. My sister downloaded one called “plant nanny.” Every time you drink water, you track it in your app and water your plant. If you fail to drink water for long periods of time, your plant could die! Silly…but it actually worked for her!

Other benefits to drinking more water include clearer skin, better digestion, helps muscle soreness, and boosts metabolism and energy levels.

How I Cleared My Skin

Clearing my skin (specifically my acne) has been one of my biggest struggles. After visiting two different dermatologists, testing multiple prescription medications, and attempting every face wash on the market, I felt completely defeated. One day I felt so fed up, I started researching all-natural remedies, made a list, and began my trial and error process. I learned a lot not only about my skin health, but also about my overall health.

While there was no magic pill or superfood that cleared my skin, I found one very important aspect in healing my skin: fixing my “leaky gut syndrome” (or rather, relieving it). After reading several articles, I essentially learned that leaky gut syndrome is when there is a lot of inflammation in the stomach due to having more “bad” bacteria in the stomach than good (at least, that’s what I took from the articles I read.) Taking care of my stomach health was ESSENTIAL to healing my skin! Here’s how I did that:

 

REDUCING OR ELIMINATING DAIRY

I originally eliminated dairy due to finding out I am lactose intolerant! I didn’t eliminate it overnight either – I slowly eliminated it day by day. But deciding to eliminate dairy was one of the best decisions I ever made. The hormones in dairy can cause extra inflammation in the body, and for me, there seemed to be a lot of inflammation in my stomach and in my sinuses. For years I had chronic sinus infections and sinus headaches – once I stopped eating dairy, I stopped having sinus issues!

 

ADDING PROBIOTICS

Probiotics are so important for stomach health. Probiotics are the healthy bacteria that your gut needs to stay healthy. I personally use Paradise Earth’s Blend Daily Superfood Vitamin because it is an all-natural vitamin containing superfoods, probiotics, and iron. I also drink Synergy Trilogy kombucha once a day for extra probiotics, lemon juice benefits, and because it has fresh pressed ginger juice in it (another inflammation reducer)!

 

L-GLUTAMINE

Once I started really researching leaky gut syndrome, I found the most common alleviator to be l-glutamine. Glutamine can help with the immune system, inflammation in the gut, and gut function. When purchasing this product on amazon, I found several reviews of people talking about how l-glutamine has helped with their IBS, gluten and dairy sensitivities, and especially their skin. When taking this consistently, I also noticed I can eat dairy without feeling like my stomach is going to explode (although I still break out and feel the after effects in my sinuses).

 

OMEGA 3S

Fish oil pills are a fantastic way to get omega 3s, but I never wanted to take them due to the fishy after-burps. My friend, Katie, works for Plexus and introduced me to Omega 3s that contain superfoods in them rather than fish oil. I noticed the more superfoods, vegetables, nutrients in general I eat, the better I feel and the better my skin looks!

 

TEA TREE VEGETABLE SOAP BAR

This is the only part of my skin care I changed for the surface of my skin. I switched from Clean and Clear products, which often dried out my skin, to a tea tree vegetable soap bar from Trader Joe’s. Not only is it much cheaper, I noticed the all-natural soap bar is much better for my skin than any other product I’ve utilized.

 

SHOWER FILTER

While this one was not one of the most important ones to clearing up my skin, I noticed buying a shower filter did help my hair and skin health. I am currently on well water, which means there are extra minerals in the water. I bought a shower filter on Amazon for around $25 to help filter the water. Plus, the filter lasts 8-12 months!

 

Here are the products I used to help my stomach health/skin. I hope this was helpful!